5 Steps to Unlocking Your True Self-Image
Updated: Feb 27
by Juanita E. L. Cameron, 12/19/2019
The way you view yourself is referred to YOUR self-image, in other words, it’s exactly as you see yourself past, present and future. Unlocking our truest self-image sometimes is difficult and the keys to opening up our truest and most authentic self can be hard to find, but I want to help you unlock the hidden treasure that is you.
Me: May I ask you something?
Me: Thanks. How do you view yourself?
You might view yourself as a parent, happily married spouse, construction worker, friend, African Queen, sports fan, intelligent, impatient, teacher, soccer mom, hot brunette, entrepreneur or middle-aged. Whichever or whatever way you view or see yourself, you are worth far more than your career, gender, possessions and age. Guess what? You’re also more than your parents’ opinion.
You are a unique, one of a kind, person with nuances that are unique to only you!
When who you are aligns with what you do, and how you do you, then you’re living authentically.
On the contrary, most of us view ourselves as one way and live another way – there is a solution for that in James 1:8 – it's called a double standard. You see, authentic people act honestly and congruently.
Here are 4 enormous benefits of living authentically
Respect from others
Those that live lives misaligned with their values, beliefs, and attitudes suffer from more anxiety, guilt, and shame. It might seem easier to live up to the expectations of others in the short-term, but the long-term costs are significant.
Follow these steps to determine your true self and live life on your terms:
Identify your core values. An authentic self-image is one that is aligned with your values. By knowing your values, you’ll gain an understanding of what is important to you. Once you’re aware of your values, you can build a self-image and life that are more meaningful and enjoyable.
Make a list of your values. Create a long list and include everything that you think applies to you. Then, reduce your list to the ten values that are most important to you. You might struggle to narrow your list to just ten, but ten values are plenty.
Determine if you have any conflicts. For example, you might say that adventure and freedom are two of your most important values, but what if you also strongly favor responsibility and security? Those values could be in conflict.
When you’re faced with an inner conflict, you’re likely to shut down and do nothing. If you’ve ever been paralyzed while making a decision, it’s possible your values were in conflict. Think back to when you’ve struggled to make a decision and see if it’s true.
Do you have any values listed that aren’t really priorities for you? We often carry around perspectives instilled by our parents. Here’s a newsflash: they may have been wrong. Take the time to determine your values for yourself. Disregard what society says you should value. You’re an individual.
Create an action plan for each value. Imagine one of your values is frugality. You could create a budget and savings plan that incorporates that value. You might plan to start clipping coupons, visit less expensive stores, and search for free entertainment options available on the weekends.
Make a list of activities you enjoy that are in alignment with your values. For example, if generosity is a priority, you could find an enjoyable way to spend your time helping others. If health is a value you cherish, you could join a soccer team or a yoga class. Find your favorite sport and participate.
Evaluate yourself at the end of each day. Think about the instances when you failed to live according to your values. Likewise, contemplate the times you were able to live according to your values and self-image, particularly when doing so was challenging.
Create a self-image that is in alignment with your values. First, it is necessary to identify and choose your values. Next, construct a life that allows you to live those values consistently and to thrive. Authenticity eliminates many of the common emotional ailments in life, but it’s not always the easiest choice.
Be bold enough to choose the person you want to become and live accordingly. The benefits are enormous.
Are you living authentically you?
Let me help you discover the true you and walk with you on this wonderful journey.
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Xoxo Miss JelC